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As surprising as it is, the most recent remake of King Kong contains everything men and women need to know about intimate relationships and love as they pertain to the future of our world. For those of you who haven’t seen it, I’m sure I won’t give anything away in this article that would have come as a surprise to you. Really, what could there be at this point after three major motion picture versions and more than a dozen spin-offs? Let’s see; Kong dies, the guy gets the girl and ignorance reigns supreme in the final, woefully misinterpreted statement, “It wasn’t the airplanes, t’was beauty killed the beast.”

It is of great importance that we own the full responsibility of our sexuality. Human sexuality is a complex creature. Certainly, if you ask the evolutionary biologists they will tell you without equivocation that our sexuality is a straightforward function of procreation, driven by our ingrained instinct to survive. Yet after witnessing both my own intimate experience as well as the experiences of hundred of individuals and couples over the years, the function of our sexuality is clearly so much more intricate.

True radiant, inside-out Beauty is a radical act these days. Certainly, it is one of the more powerful invitations we can experience; an invitation to show our reverence and honor as well as an invitation to feel our love. Beauty is very much in the purview of the feminine; something we seem to have been innately endowed with, and also something which our culture has – in many ways – stolen from us.

In the Fall of 2009, I participated in a Council and Mirroring Training through Animas Valley Institute on the other-worldly Antelope Island in the middle of Utah's Great Salt Lake. We were camping on the west side of the island, where the original American blood-line of buffalo and antelope play, cavorting and snorting all around us, sometimes within yards of us.

This post is not about blaming. It is about traveling the path toward humanity's healing and wholing. Men are responsible for egregious violence against life. It has been this way for at least four millennia. Yet in order for something different to arise men must cultivate a functional relationship with the very emotion responsible for so much of the violence. They must be reacquainted with their rage, allowing it to come out of the shadows and take its place alongside the (only slightly) more accepted emotions of love and grief.

For the last many years of being a devout spokeswoman for the importance of full female pleasure, thus becoming an instructor for women and men on tracking the elusive creature called 'female orgasm', I have come to the conclusion that the function of female ecstasy is several-fold. And more to the point, its full reclamation and honoring is as necessary as clean renewable energy and the reinvention of community. Without it, I promise you, we will never achieve world peace.

The other night while my younger son, Simon, and I were driving home, excited about the prospect of watching The Matrix (a long-awaited experience for him) a fox jumped out in front of our car. I had never, in all my 44 years, hit an animal yet the experience felt eerily familiar; a flash of golden fur caught in the bright headlights and a heart-breaking 'thud'.

This is from a dear friend of mine, a brother-in-arms, who is experiencing what some would call a Kundalini Awakening, what others might call Re-Wilding...May it serve as an invitation as well as just simply stir us all up!

Re-Wilding is the journey of remembering who we are and where we come from, as if our lives depended on it. That may seem dramatic yet at this point, given the ailing condition of many of the Earth's systems due to human mis-use (abuse), our lives truly do depend upon us discovering a new way of living with ourselves, each other and the wild world around us. In western culture we have slowly evolved into a creature who sees itself as separate from the natural world. Our creation stories have evolved to support this belief system - no matter what monotheistic God you worship, He doesn't live on earth...he lives out there somewhere, beyond the physical realm.

Tonight, as the last moments of the miraculous journey that was 2009 slip away, I give thanks to all the courageous, powerful and beautiful individuals and couples with whom it has been my honor to work throughout this past year, including: - the young couple, just 30 and 31, who are insisting on a deeper way of belonging to each other and the world, whose devotion to service has them literally standing on the front lines of battle zones gathering intimate stories and taking breathtaking photographs of families and individuals in an effort to educate the world on the catastrophe that is war.