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It is 8 am and I've found my way to the place I sit with clients; a small carriage house nestled along an alley in downtown Boulder. The distant hum of traffic, delivery trucks, school buses and somber children walking along the sidewalk to their first day of school surf the thin cool morning air without obstruction. Everything is pristine today. Razor sharp.

When I was 14 I found this quote by fearless truth-teller Margaret Atwood. This quote, "I forgot what things were called and saw instead what they are" worked its disastrous mysterious magic for the next twenty-five years, popping up here and there, only enough to cause me to feel constantly unsettled, relentlessly restless, but never entirely disrupted.

I live five feet from the Bear Creek bike path - the one that takes people all the way from Louisville and Lafayette to the downtown Boulder area. It gets a high volume of traffic all day and night. Sitting out on my patio I hear the conversations of the people moving by. If I had to generalize I would say that typically, men discuss financial matters and women discuss relationship issues. And yet, sometimes, in between the lines of the perfunctory and  expected, something else entirely happens. Sometimes they're in tears. Sometimes they're angry. Sometimes they are lost in a sense of hopelessness or despair.

"Every time we make love fully to another human being we make love to everything that lives and breaths". (Terry Tempest Williams) It could be that the very nature of sex, of the energy that we've labeled 'sexual' - in addition to the miraculous necessity of procreation - is to reveal the unique wild language of our soul's discourse with the universe. How would your love making change if you allowed for this larger significance? Perhaps even more to the point, how would you define 'love making' if you were to accept this larger definition of what we have labeled 'sexuality'?

Listen to a wonderful conversation I had the honor of having with the three powerful founders of Own It Sister! Radio, titled 'Re-Wilding our Female Sexuality, as if our lives depended upon it.'

"Rewilding" is an earth sciences term used to describe the restoration of tracts of land and ecosystems to their pre-cultivated, pre-domesticated state. Wikipedia describes 'rewilding' as "large-scale conservation aimed at restoring and protecting core wilderness areas, providing connectivity between such areas, and protecting or reintroducing apex predators and keystone species. Rewilding projects may require ecological restoration, particularly to restore connectivity between fragmented protected areas, and reintroduction of predators where extirpated."

This Monday, May 3rd, at 10am PST I will be talking with the power-triad of Own It Sister! See their website for more information and to listen to previous shows with, among other visionary guests, Kathleen Woodward Thomas and Claire Zammit (founders of Awakening the New Feminine Power). The show's topic? Re-Wilding Female Sexuality, As If Our Lives Depended On it (of course)!

Join us for this WILD conversation.

by Pattiann Rogers Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall become as white as snow. Isaiah 1:18

Under the branches of the elm and the tall, blooming bushes of the black haw, in the wavering jigsaw of the sun, you sit, naked on the bench, waiting. The paraphernalia is gathered, laid out − warm wash water in a stainless- steel bowl, rinse water in the deeper pail, creams, soaps, a sanctuary of flannel and towels.

If I were given the opportunity to change one thing about our culture I would eradicate shame. All of us, to varying degrees, experience some version of shaming. Whether or not we are born to families who celebrate and encourage our innate individual expression, the culture we are born into is structured to shame us. In fact, the tenacity of the culturally dictated 'status-quo' depends upon the efficient and prolific shaming of innate human characteristics.

Full feminine sexual health and expression transcend orgasm or in-the-moment pleasure. They are a mirror for the health and well-being of all the Earth's natural systems. The extent to which we women are, not only merely safe, but encouraged and expected to express our pleasure, desire, radiance and power is the extent to which life in general is revered and protected; the extent to which humanity protects and tends to all life on the planet.